WHY We Like Sweet Treats and Non-Strategic Food | Abolition of Failures

It’s time to release your failures. Your nutrition choices are really a matter of who are you. What do you want? What would you like to accomplish? If you could remove all doubt, all fear, all past failures or past programming that has led you to believe and think and act the way you are right now, if we could wipe that out clean, what would you say is possible? What would you like to do?”

I recently had the privilege of being interviewed on the “Essential Oil Revolution” Podcast, the #1 Essential Oils podcast in the world with Samantha Wright. I had a great time discussing multiple topics with her including the Coconut Oil Scandal of 2017,  what really raises cholesterol, and how we can start to make a difference in our health with Power Foods Lifestyle principles.

While you can listen to the entire interview below, I have transcribed the final part of the interview–the part that I hope every Body Buddy not only reads, but ponders about deeply. It’s intense, good stuff. If you choose to listen, this starts at about the 31:40-minute mark.


Sam: Can you share with us some tips for how you deal with that step of ‘how do I not eat these things with every meal?’ I’m so used to doing that.


Kristy Jo: The first thing would be looking at time of day. There are two reasons we need carbohydrates. Assuming a person for medicinal purposes doesn’t need to do ketosis, a different dogma of eating which there is certainly a time and a place for that. But assuming we’re not going there, I like us to focus on eating carbohydrates for:

1) Physiological purposes: it’s fuel to the brains and the muscles.

So if we’re going to be active, if we’re going to be taking a test, or if we’re going to be engaged in some form of physical activity, then having a source of carbs with our protein and our vegetables might be wise.

It’s not to say it’s needed, because I certainly do and try to gear people towards a fat adapted way of eating. But for most people, that’s around one source of carbs per day, whether sweet potatoes, brown rice, quinoa, lentils, or fruits.

2) Psychology and Emotions

Every single person is going to have differently programmed coping mechanisms to stress, difficulties, heartbreak, tragedy, death, anger, job loss, etc.

There are issues we all face on a daily basis, and so whatever has been programmed in as a coping mechanism–in spite of knowledge– we will probably turn to those.

If for some reason we find ourselves in a situation where we need something, it’s not about, Oh my gosh, I can’t have that.

It’s more, Hey, I recognize I’m in a place right now. I need that candy bar, or, I need that cookie and being compassionate to ourselves in that moment.

But then taking the next step of toughness to say, I will pair it wisely even though it’s not the most ideal choice or strategic choice, I can be strategic about it  and pair it with a protein shake and some celery (PVC meal).

The thought would then continue: if I’m going to raise my insulin, if I’m going to put these man-made chemicals and food dyes in my body, then I’m going to at least absorb some co-factors while I’m at it with my vegetables. I’m going to put some protein in there to keep my blood sugar from dropping so that if that happens, then I’m going to mitigate the cravings that come on in the next 5-10 minutes that will cause me to eat the entire bag.

You can see it’s a very complex way of thinking, but those two times of situations would be the best times to be eating carbohydrates. 

I was on the phone the other day with a client who is several hundred pounds overweight, and she said it best when she said:

“You know, Kristy, it really is challenging to me because I know what to do. You’ve given me the tools and tactics but at the end of the day, I just don’t believe I have a future.”

And I have found in my coaching that unfortunately this is a big thought that a great majority of people share, and of course, I hope there’s exceptions out there. (Please, listeners, please be the exception).

But the reality I have found as I am on the inside of many homes and lives is this:

We doubt what we are capable of.

We doubt our future,

We doubt that we matter.

That our existence matters

We find that we’re living for other people and other things and we’re just kind of surviving life.

And it starts there.

It’s not about carbohydrates.

The carbohydrates is the outer symptom.

It’s really a deeper root cause of what do we believe about ourselves and our potential and our limits?

It comes to that quote – I wish I could remember who said it but “It’s not that we’re limited, it’s that we’re fearful of our possibilities and what potentially we could do…”

And so I think for each of our listeners, it’s really is a matter of this:

Who are you?

What do you want?

What would you like to accomplish?

If you could remove all doubt, all fear, all past failures or past programming that has led you to believe and think and act the way you are right now, if we could wipe that clean, what would you say is possible?

What would you like to do?

That is that the game-changer into starting to say,

You know, I’m worth taking this challenge. It’s going to be a challenge if I replace my carb with a fat at this meal, but I can do it. I can do one meal a day…

That’s the momentum chain that builds our trust and our confidence in ourselves.

Sam: That is such powerful advice. I hope that everyone hits that back 30-second button a couple of times and just goes back and listens to that whole thing again because there’s so much truth there, Kristy Jo. I mean, powerful stuff. This is not just about do-or-don’t eat coconut oil.

This is not just about do-or-don’t eat carbohydrates and how to do that.

It’s about the fact that you are worth it.

You have all these choices that you can make each and everyday.

Something that helps whenever I am deciding to make a change in my diet and I  really need to step it up is–if I approach it in this way that’s like, No, Sam, you’re not allowed to have that cookie. No, Sam, you’re not allowed to eat xy and z, it’s much harder for me than if I approach it in this way of,

You know what, Sam, you are so lucky. You get to eat that avocado. You get to eat this delicious good-for-you vegetable or whatever” and just changing that mindset a little bit.

But it really does come back to that self-worth and that belief that you deserve to feel healthy.

Kristy Jo: It’s so true. One other note and I loved that it took as through that mindset that you have and that’s why it’s important for us to verbalize the different navigation of those thoughts, is I even go so far as to separate my body from me.  Because I believe myself–I am a living in my body. My body is my host. As the vehicle for me, I have to treat my body with THE most respect because it’s not me –it was a gift, and I’m a renter of that gift if you will.

I will ask what the body needs. Because if I’m saying What do I want?, that says that it’s emotional. That’s what my emotion, self-care, self-love does… I need to do that rather than what outer coping do I need to take?

I mean, this is deep stuff.

Sam: That is great. Yes.

Kristy Jo: But these are the real solutions and hopefully, our listeners are at least thinking a little more.


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I know that you can find solutions when you dial in to look at yourself with more love, compassion, and serious intent.

If you’re not ready to make the nutrition changes yet, but want to focus on a few simple mindset tecniques, please click here to view the free tools I have for you to do that.

You’re stronger than you think.

Believe in yourself.

This world needs you.

#PowerYourBody one meal, one workout, one day at a time!

Love your bud,


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